With divorce on the increase and extra marital affairs and infidelity accounting for around half of all marriage failures in Australia, we take a look at the concept of monogamy and ask if it is really necessary in modern society.
For many years the divorce rate has been rising with as many as one in two marriages in Australia ending in divorce. The reasons for this seemingly irreparable collapse in traditional values relating to the importance and sustainability of marriage are many and complex. However, whenever one views statistics about the reasons cited for the failure of marriages, the same pattern occurs time and time again and clearly shows that an extremely large number of marriage breakdowns are caused by infidelity and extra marital affairs.
Why is it that we, as Australians, members of a diverse and advanced society, find it so incredibly difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship? Well, quite simply, its because as biological organisms we are not designed to be monogamous. There are any number of scientific reasons one could point to when considering this question but let’s look at it rationally from a social perspective instead of in a purely scientific manner. Why should it be ok to have wide and varied interests in all areas of human interest and endeavour but it be the case that one sexual partner can fulfil all of our desires and needs? Does it make sense that if you like football you can only like football and not cricket too? Does it seem logical that you like your friend David so you cannot also like your friend Peter? Should you only eat apples and not oranges? I could go on but I think the point is made.
The number of Australian couples who are either married or in long term relationships who understand the futility of trying to force each other into monogamy is growing with considerable pace. More and more couples are turning to the idea of swinging as a means of exploring sexual outlets beyond the confines of marriage in a safe, honest and supportive way. Simply put, swinging involves having additional sexual partners with the knowledge, consent and support of your normal long term partner.
Some years ago swingers club started to appear in Sydney and some of the bigger Australian cities to allow couples taking those first steps into this new world to be able to meet and mingle with like minded couples without any kind of obligation to engage in sexual swapping. Now twenty years on Sydney Swingers have a whole range of different sex clubs and erotic social clubs to choose from and they are going to them in larger numbers than ever before.
The advantages of this later type of club is that because they are primarily just social clubs there is nothing garish or overtly sexual about them and one is not fortunate enough to find potential sexual partners then the evening can still be enjoyed in much the same way as any standard social event. This very easy going and gently flirtatious style of club is a lot less confronting than a visit to a standard swingers club where people in various stages of undress are openly engaging in sexual acts. Most people feel that swinging has a very strong social aspect and that is best served when everyone has their clothes on. After all, good sex is about being relaxed and happy and if you get to know someone and like them first as a person then swinging and having sex with them will be a much better experience.